What we call chemistry between two lovers is the unconscious matching of perfectly balanced opposite personality types.
I describe this phenomenon in detail in my book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us.
Hi Lucy, I think the answer to your question lies in something you said in your letter.
Waiting for me were five lengthy text messages from a guy I had been seeing for two months."Oh my God, he’s so desperate,” my friend said when she saw my screen.“This is totally normal for us,” I explained. ” I scrolled up to show her my seven unanswered text messages before, his three blocks of text before that and so on.
My friend, who lived strictly by the rule that you should not double text for fear of looking too “thirsty,” as the kids call it, was aghast. My now-boyfriend has been teased for “texting like a girl,” but it was immediately one of my favorite things about him.
Sadly, and unfortunately, all of the effort in choosing the best photographs, writing one's personal biography, and positioning oneself in the most appealing personality and lifestyle categories is all for naught; it simply doesn't matter.
Adding insult to injury, it is futile to base your hopes for a happy relationship on the careful reading and interpreting of a potential love interest's profile, while scanning every pixel of their pics with a magnifying glass looking for potential clues or red flags. Because dating chemistry is not based on your prospective match's face or body type, musical interests, favorite foods, political leanings, education, religion, or other criteria.